Confidence in your partner and relationship..

This post will probably trigger connections to your life, it's my hope that after reading it you'll view things in a different way and apply the advice for the betterment of your relationship. 

The person you're seeing is an A candidate. Everyone says they are the perfect person and everyone adores both of you as a couple. But are you really happy? Or you're in it because you feel its the right thing? At least that's what common sense tells you. Or perhaps you live by men's rules that when something that the world sees as perfect comes your way then in did it's "perfect". 

Can there be a person who offers 100% of our needs? We hold on in the hopes that the person will change or things will get better. As time passes you develop deep emotional attachments with your partner. Those issues that you don't like about your partner will still be there but now you're too deep in it to let go or express your concerns about it. "The quicksand effect".. 

What acts chipper an affectionate bond? At least according to me.. "Keep involved with your partner". Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there. "Conflict resolution". Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to feel free to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without embarrassment, degradation or insisting on being right. 

"Keeping outside relationships and interests alive". No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on your relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too. The healthy kind of friends and interests ;-) "Communicating." Honest, direct communication is an essential part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm—are critical to communication.

Confidence in your relationship and partner equates to a very healthy and successful relationship

Being Perfect

Enroute from Roben Island, Cape Town. Picture by Dennis Tsanga

Its a fact, absolutely nobody is perfect... But correcting your mistakes, that's perfection! Everyday should present itself as your opportunity to be better.. It starts with a positive attitude, a smile, a greeting... A good deed that puts a smile on someones face will in turn make your heart smile. Try it

Peace of Mind

Luderitz Namibia. Picture by Dennis Tsanga

One thing is certain in life, its never too late to say sorry, well unless of course the person whom you wronged is no longer among the living. Make peace with people you've wronged and perhaps felt too proud to apologize to or just couldn't bring yourself to do it.

A clear conscience is but one of life's greatest "priceless" achievements. Having peace of mind is one less problem to the issues we face everyday. No matter how long it has been, just find it in you to apologize. There's no guarantees on the audience you will get, but irrespective of it being positive or negative, you will definitely feel better knowing that you did.

Be a better you

No matter what the future brings, it will always bring you the opportunity to make a positive difference. No matter what may happen, you can always respond with integrity and positive purpose.

You can apply the very best of your wisdom and experience to the situations in which you have influence. And you can adjust and adapt to those situations over which you have little or no control.

There’s no point in worrying about the future, because your worry will not cause anything positive to happen. Instead, focus on making good and valuable use of the time you have right now, to grow stronger, more capable, more knowledgeable and experienced.

Position yourself so you can find and bring to life the positive value that exists in every situation. Prepare yourself to successfully move forward even in the face of challenge, frustration and uncertainty.

The way to assure a better future is to be a better you, right here and right now. The strength you build within your own life is a powerful tool you can use to create prosperity and fulfillment in any environment.

Every moment is an opportunity to add to that strength by living with love, gratitude, authenticity and positive purpose. Do what it takes to be a better you right now, and build a better world in the days, months and years to come.